My “Do Not Buy” Word(s)

My “Do Not Buy” Word(s)

Laundry Soap

 

Do you ever feel like you have too much stuff?

Way too much stuff.

Like you could furnish an entire second story wing without ever leaving home.

Like your basement or attic or garage or 24 out buildings are one step away from an episode of hoarders.

Like all of your stuff is plotting a political overthrow with plans to form a totalitarian government and set up government housing……

…..all without your permission.

Me, too.

Hi, my name is karianne and I’m a stuff-aholic.

Stack of towels

I’m starting on my 12-step recovery program.

Step 1:  find a “Do Not Buy” word.

A “do not buy” word is like a stop sign when you are thinking about buying something.

Like waving a red flag.

When you hear yourself say it…..it brings a complete halt to any purchase that you were ever thinking about making.

Carmel has a great one.

She’s the one who gave me the idea.

Her “do not buy” word(s) are “this will work.”  

When her purchase is a “make-do” or “okay” or “I guess.”

When she doesn’t love it.

 

Basket Ruffled Shower Curtain

 

Want to know what mine is?

I used it when I bought this shower curtain.

Because this shower curtain was a really, really, really good deal.

$19.99.

Can you believe it?  I had seen them so many places and they were $49.99 and $79.99 and $59.99.  And then jami told me about this one and I knew it would be perfect for the laundry room.

 

And they had ruffled curtains and other ruffled shower curtains and ruffled this and ruffled that.

And I am the president of the ruffle fan club.

And I thought….. “Why buy one when I could buy two….or three….or a dozen?”

 

laundry room

Why not?

They are only $19.99.

Seriously.

And that’s where I get into trouble.

Because one ruffled shower curtain at $19.99 is a bargain.

But seven?  That’s when the stuff takes over and starts applying to be an independent nation.

So I limited my purchase to one.

One ruffled $19.99 shower curtain.

“Why buy one when I could buy two….or three….or a dozen?”

These are my “Do Not Buy” word(s).

And they worked.

And I took my first step on the road to recovery.

Stuff-aholics unite :)

PS  Are you a stuff-aholic?

Please tell me you are so we can be friends :)

PPS  I got so many requests as to where I got the shower curtain….here’s the link (please note that it is an affiliate link):

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Comments

  1. The question is “Do we really need his?” Problem is, we really do most of the time. depending on the price of the “I just gotta have it item” My shop is full of these items that I label future projects for the blog stuff. We buy a bunch of this stuff at an auction. Oh well, what are you gonna do?

  2. I have tchotchkes. I am the go-to person when somebody dies and no one knows what to do with the stuff. “Oh, give that to Kirby. She’ll like it.” And then I have to keep it because the owner is DEAD, fercryin’ outloud. And I am the caretaker of the dead people’s stuff.

  3. I have two guest rooms in this house. Unfortunately the “guests” are all things. Pillows, throws, plates, vases, “interesting” decor pieces, fake plants. Thankfully, I’m learning to just look around my house before I go buying more clutter. I’ve barely taken home two things in the last year!

  4. And I’m always putting things on ebay that I bought but never used…..

  5. All I can think is “where did she get that for $19.00?” Because I might need one (or two). Ha!

    • P.S. My mom and I shop together and our phrase is “where will you put that ?”. Never works though…

  6. Where did you buy the ruffled shower curtain? Love it and desperately want one! (I’m in Australia by the way!)

  7. My name is Heidi and I’m a stuff-aholic.
    And I have an antiques and resale booth, which makes for some really dangerous thrifting and shopping excursions. Guess I need to start working on my “do not buy” words!!
    xo Heidi

  8. Hi. My name is Paula and my daughter thinks I’m a hoarder. I’m not. I know, denial. But really, I’m not a hoarder. I AM a bargain-shopping, diy-ing stuffaholic. And when my daughter and her children and all THEIR stuff vacate my house, maybe I won’t look so bad??? Then I will have so much room to organize that stuff and…and…and…I’m still working on finding my words–I think maybe they are “Look how much I can save…”

  9. Hi, My name’s Kimberly and I’m a “stuffaholic”. My “stuffaholism” started early. At first, it was small stuff, an extra set of markers, two or three bottles of craft paint that I didn’t need for the project that I was working on. Then it escalated to sets of dishes, sheets, lace table cloths. Now, my stuffaholism involves entire rooms of furniture…mostly chairs…and tables…oh, and, um, a couple of dressers. My family has tried, unsuccessfully to stage several interventions…including offering to help me throw things away…even purchasing a box of large black trash bags. My do not buy words: “I love it but really, where would I put it?” So far, these words have been reserved for taxidermy of 7 point bucks and fish and a canoe…although, I did actually consider the canoe…you know…for hanging upside down…from the ceiling…in the family room. xo.

    P.S. Where DID you find that shower curtain?

  10. Hi, My name is Ellen and I am a stuffaholic! It has just hit me in the last few weeks, I keep buying bargains, its cheap you know….bringing them home and have absolutely no room for them! I am finally realizing it my home is too cluttered! Yes, I have some great things, but the madness has got to stop. I loaded up my car with 8 boxes of stuff and off to the auction! My brother is an auctioneer…

  11. Wow – great post! You really made me think. I have a thrifting/junking/antiquing buddy, and we often ask each other, “Do you want me to talk you ‘into’ it or ‘out of’ it?” It often helps….but sometimes , my friend asks, “Will you lay awake at night asking yourself why you didn’t buy it?”. Again, sometimes works, sometimes not….’scuse me, I’ve gotta go start cleaning out my basement : ) Linda

  12. Ten years ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer and convinced I was going to die. One of my biggest fears was that my husband would have to clean out closets, and dresser drawers, and the attic after I died, and he would say “What is all this sh*t?” So now my do not buy words are “Remember, someday, your children will be cleaning out your house.” Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work because I think “I’ll be in heaven and won’t care.”

    • Being one who, after my in-laws passed away, spent days and days emptying their house of clutter – seriously, a machete my MIL confiscated from my 50+ year-old husband when he was 14? – I immediately started clearing out unneeded stuff. It took me two years to purge and I have to say I feel liberated!

  13. I’m right there with you on the stuff-aholic!!!! I’ve been trying to curb my buying over the last few years because I just don’t have room to store things anymore and shopping can be a very expensive habit (especially at some of those high end stores) . I’m trying to buy only what I really love or that I instantly can think of a place it would look good in. I have been falling off the wagon a bit lately with Target. (Things just magically appear in my cart.) When Privet House came, I went a little bonkers but then I gradually returned things because I never made room for the new purchases. Gotta love Target and the three month return policy.

  14. I am a stuff-a-holic and I need to stop! My way to try and avoid it is to not go to those stores where I do get into trouble. The stores I have to go to I’m heading right to what I need and that’s it. It’s going to be harder in the coming months with holiday stuff out. Now that, I have plenty of! That shower curtain really was a good deal though. That would be my downfall, too.

  15. Oh, this is weird!!! I was cleaning the bathroom yesterday and thinking of my shower curtain. Thinking that while I was in the town I bought it in the other day I should have picked up a couple more of them. Thinking that if I DON’T buy them now, they won’t have them when this one’s time is over and needs to be replaced.

  16. Your house is just gorgeous! If you have more that one of everything throw it my way so I can replicate your house! :O) P.S. I am a hoarder of craft supplies and when I go to the craft store and something is on sale… you guessed it! why buy one when you can buy 3 or 4 or…12?

  17. I’ll take the shower curtain for $19.99! Where did you find that deal and what are you hiding behind it? I LOVE this room!

  18. Been a “stuff-a-holic” all my life…when at the “5 and dime” stores as a kid (yes, FW Woolworth back in the age of the dinosaurs)…I spent my allowance on “stuff” for my room, while my siblings ran to the candy counter!…Been that way all my life and that has been a long time! :)
    But now, I am really trying to “shop the attic”…I just pretend it is a great vintage store..well, sometimes it works, then I am off to a REAL vintage store!!…Can’t help myself!….I need therapy!!….

    Love the shower curtain…now wouldn’t it be great as a ruffled cover for a bench?…or a vanity?….such great things you can do with it!

  19. Yes, I suffer from the same syndrome. I really have to get working on a cure as well. I love the very clean and simple design of Rachel Ashwell, and all the Swedish/Nordic and French designs. The Jeanne D’Arc magazines are my favorite. I need to try and de clutter my home to look like this. First I need to stop my stuff -a-holic problem for this to work.

  20. Marnita Parry :

    Hello….my name is Marnita and I’m a stuff-aholic. Gulp! There, I’ve said it. Now on to the really big issue, I don’t have a garage, a basement, a usable attic, a shed, or 24 outbuildings of some sort….. No, all of my stuff is out in the open. Did I mention that I have 4 china cabinets that are full of dishes? Oh, and our house is just 1600 square feet. Please, oh please. tell me where to find my local stuff-aholics chapter and I promise to start attending meetings. Right after I stop by the Goodwill…..

  21. OMG, I am definitely a stuff a holic! My bonus room is crying out for help. Just don’t send the hoarders show here.

  22. “stuffaholic”? Maybe, possibly…. if you took a look around my house at this very minute I would have to say most definitely but its only because my “stuff” became homeless when we moved our middle son into the guest/craft/music room so that all three boys could have their own room as the eldest did not go off into the military because he had no peace about it gonna be a missionary instead. Can you say run-on sentence?! ha ha!

    But seriously now, my “Do NOT Buy” words are “Do we really NEED this?” “Do we have something we are using, that works just as well?”, “Where exactly will this fit?” , and “What am I wiling to get rid of in order to get this?” My kitchen was my nemesis but after moving into a much smaller house we really did get rid of a lot of stuff…. and I’m actually in the process of organizing/getting rid of even more so that really are only surrounded by those things we truly love and bring back memories! (I mean who really NEEDS three old typewriters???? okay they do make great decorator pieces and the boys love plinking on them… so much so that one now needs a new cleaning…. but THREE! yep its a sickness….)

  23. Marnita Parry :

    p.s. The BEST white shower curtain ever….. a double sized chenile bedspread hung from curtain clips. Just hang the unfringed top of the beadspread as the bottom of the shower curtain and fold over the fringed portion as a valance and voila!

  24. I spent this summer cleaning out our cottage. If I didn’t absolutely NEED it or LOVE it- out it went. I am so happy with the results! Now I can browse through on line shops and even venture into Target aka The Red Dot Boutique and I do not feel compelled to purchase a thing! I do love that shower curtain though ; o )

  25. Too funny! The problem with having a big house with a 2,000 sq ft basement is that I’ve filled it up. Now that I’m usually the only one that’s home(oldest moved across country, youngest goes to college and works, and the hubs often travels), I often find myself on Zillow or some other real estate site looking for a smaller (less new) house with a little more acreage. I’ve found so many great houses, but I always end up asking myself “where would I put all my stuff”? Oh the irony, considering our last house was only 1,500 sq feet on a lot the size of our front yard only 12 years ago.

  26. The first step is admitting the problem – but what if I don’t want to recover?

    The only reason I donate stuff – is to make room for more stuff!

    Ah, stuff, glorious stuff …

    See, it even makes me break out into song!
    Help me!!!
    Kelly

  27. I am no minimalist but not quite a hoarder either. i don’t buy multiples of things but I love to have what i consider “the perfect thing”…..for everything. I love accessorizing my home and table as much as my clothing. It’s an eye for detail and probably stems from a feeling of not having enough as a child. I do ask myself now if I have any room for something I have my eye on and it has cut down on some of it. I used to tell myself my house didn’t have enough closet space when truly, it’s that we have too much stuff.
    Just like my signature will fill the line I’m provided whether it’s an inch long or 6 inches, it seems i will fill my home no matter what size and guess what? It’s a big house!

  28. Yes. I am a stuff-aholic. I had a mini meltdown over the basement sitch last week after the gas & electric meter reader almost broke his neck on all the stuff. I told him he was welcome to grab a few armfuls for the wife on the way out…just don’t let me see it! :) The only benefit is that sometimes, I get to go shopping in my basement and find “new” stuff all over again. Well, new old stuff because half of it is furniture from the thrift shop that I had to buy because it was so cheap. My “do not buy” wordss are, “To heck with Nate. This will land me on “Hoarding: Buried Alive.” Love the laundry room. Thanks for the shout out! Happy you love your ruffly curtain.

  29. Oh my, I have way too much stuff and I think it’s true that we get weighted down by it all. I’ve tried to be more selective, but if the price is right, then I’m a gonner! Great post. I’ll keep chanting “Do not buy” and see if it works!

    - The Tablescaper

  30. I’m a stuff-aholic too! Our attic is full of Christmas and my closets are full of seasonal decorations! You nailed me too! I can’t quite thinking where did she find these for $19.99? Love those ruffles!

  31. Tracey Bradshaw :

    Oh my, it is so comforting to know I’m not alone!
    My ‘stuffaholism’ has a definite furniture focus. I could furnish 3 homes comfortably right now. I buy beauties and bargains with the plan to restore, repaint, restyle and on-sell, but become attached. Our home has built in and walk in closets, but I am the current owner (hoarder) of no less than 10 wardrobes & armoires. :-o
    I have knew that I had a problem once the 20′ x 20′ garage was full and the back porch (8′ x 25′) now (embarrassingly) houses the overflow.

  32. Guilty! So wish i had a basement!

  33. Oh boy, you do have my number!

    For me, it seems to be “for the beach house” which I do not have yet. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find one! Meantime, I think I am going to have to rent a storage unit!

  34. Tell me where to buy that curtain for only $19.99!!!!!! I’ll apply ‘do not buy’ to something else. I need that curtain!!!!

  35. Thanks for sharing this. Just because we can, should we?

  36. I feel the same way! I have enough stuff, but keep getting tempted by new things I see on the internet (like those daily deal emails). Then, I go shopping and see something else. Then I see a new blog and something cute will catch my eye. I think I justify my addiction by taking my cast-offs to the consignment store to make money on them ……..to buy more stuff! Ha! Also, I’m sure this is true for you, as you accumulate more stuff, you are more selective with what you do buy. I always try to be extra careful that I’m not buying something for the sake of just buying it. I should really love it and have a place for it.

  37. I am not ready to admit. I have not enrolled in the 10 step program for stuff. I will hang my head in shame as I comment ….

    ~Bliss~

  38. As the quote by William Morris, that I have under my blog header says: “Have nothing in your home that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful’. These are the words that I attempt to live by, and it works-most of the time =)

  39. Yes, I am a stuffaholic. I have tried to be better about thinking if I really need it before the purchase. I also have trouble letting go of things. I have a problem with linens, pillows, comforters and anything else that goes on a bed. My linen closet attacks you when you open the door. I try and try to organize it using those large plastic bags that you suck all the air of to make things smaller! They work great but when you have 42 of them, well you ge the picture. I need to be in a bed linens and pillows support group!

  40. My name is Jackie, and I am a stuff-aholic, according to my husband, Chad. I think I have just the right amount of stuff, but maybe I could stand to lose a few things. My ‘do not buy’ words tend to be “What would Chad do?”, not as in “Would Chad buy this?” but more of “How mad will Chad be if I buy this?”. On occasion that works, but usually not. I’m working on it though. =)
    BTW, I have that same shower curtain, I believe, but mine may be more of a cream. I love it to pieces. And I believe mine was around that same price, and like you I did have thoughts of buying several, but I was able to control myself as well – but it was not without difficulty!
    I do love a good bargain..

  41. I’d have to say yes, I am a stuff-aholic! My word for the last few months has been ‘declutter’!! I’ve been decluttering my house so why would I add more to be decluttered?!!!

  42. Ok, Karianne, you gotta’ spill it- where did you get that shower curtain??? You know, so I can practice my new “do not buy” words.

  43. Yep. That’s me…..now…um…..where did you get it?? :)

    Gorgeous house girl!

    Niki

  44. Moving out of town and away from all of the shopping possibilities has really curbed my stuff-finding expeditions. I don’t have the desire to drive all the way into town just to browse for miscellaneous stuff. So I keep away from the “stuff stores” until I really need something. That works great! What I didn’t take into account was the yard sale season out here….Uh-Oh…on Saturday I found a metal donut shop sign that I just absolutely HAD TO HAVE. I mean, come on, a donut sign for two bucks!!! There were no words to stop me. :)

  45. Ok Karri……I’m not there yet so the only thing you didn’t tell us was where you bought the shower curtain for $19.99 since I’ve already started making ruffles and I can turn that project into a window curtain . So……..?

  46. OH. MY. WORD. I wish I could write like you! If you’re president of the ruffle club, I’m the VP!
    All this talk about stuff is making me think of Veggie Tales and the “stuffmart”! :)

  47. I love your laundry room. Black and white are my favorite colors to decorate with, just add a bright accent, you can change it out often. Such a great post. Yes I have the addiction. I have been to thrift stores and not bought anything lately. Yeah!!!! I must must must keep working on this. I keep asking myself where will I put it. Do I have the time and energy to change it ALL out for each holiday? I have so much holiday decor that I never get out (time to clean out). Each time I have to drag all of the stuff from the attic I think NO MORE!!! I think we need to start an on line therapy group.

  48. Thank goodness I have an online shop so I have a place to get rid of it and not fill up a gazillion out buildings. I am currently completing my 12 step program for Olympic viewers anonymous, so I guess I can start on your program next :)

  49. I’ll be your friend, no matter what! I should adopt Carmel’s phrase. I’ve used it way too many times. I’m not a hoarder though. I buy, regret and then purge! It’s there a club for that problem?

  50. I hope you are getting compensated in some form for being president of the ruffle club! I buy way too many decorating magazines. Some women eat chocolate when they need a treat, or feel stressed. Me? I have to hide somewhere in my house with a Diet Pepsi and pour over the pages of a decoration magazine. I should subscribe to every single one of these, but the thrill of buying it at the store, and the though of my afternoon escape is too much for me to stop. Hi, my name is Karen from Redoux Interiors. I have an addiction. It is buying decorating magazines, and I can only look at them if my children are not bothering me and I have an Ice Cold Diet Pepsi in my hand.

  51. I’ve really been feeling the need to decrapify lately. I do the thing we all do of thinking “I’ll need or want this some day” then I never miss using it . I recently did a big purge on my bedroom closet. I feels so good every time I open those closet doors now. I also did it with a closet in the spare bedroom. Problem is that room has TWO closets and one is all the holiday stuff. That’s the one I need to do a be decrapifying stint on next. I rarely put out most of those decorations any more. And with a new kitten this year, I probably will put out even less. My yard sale section, yes section, of the garage is already stuffed. Problem is I hate doing a yard sale in this TX heat, so it never gets done. I finally have to just haul more stuff to Goodwill I guess. BUT, I have been VERY GOOD aboout not adding to the stash by buying new things. So, my phrase needs to apply to the junk I already need to toss out.

  52. We are definitely friends! I try to ask myself, “is this a need or a want?” Most of the time, it’s a want. But it still goes home with me so I need to work on my method…

  53. Great post! I’m looking for my “don’t buy it word (or sentence) right now. Have a couple of ideas floating in my brain — Does it have multiple uses? or Where will I store it? I may just have to use both…..lol!

  54. Oh my – I love this! I would love to be your friend :) xo

  55. Can’t help you with a “don’t buy” word/phrase. I’m still trying to talk myself out of buying a gorgeous library table I saw at my favorite crap store for only $45. I have NO need for that table, I have NO SPACE for that table, yet I can’t get it out of my mind.

    The only thing that’s keeping me from scurrying over and getting it right this very second is I’m too cheap to waste the gas for a trip to town. Yeah, go figure. Can’t spare $3.79 in fuel but desperately WANT to spend $45 on a table I don’t need.

    Sigh.

    And thankfully I can sew so if I want your ruffled curtain badly enough, I’ll make my own. Whew! One problem solved. LOL

  56. Boy, $19.99 !!! I paid $120 for mine!! Hope you’ll share the source as I can use two for a tablecloth!
    Thank you.

  57. We have more than enough furniture and stuff. But we keep bringing more home. We’re only really using 4 out of 7 rooms, you see. So the extra stuff and furniture will eventually end up in currently unused rooms. Except…those rooms will not be used for years and years. We are hoarders.

  58. Oh, yes… I have that garage and craft room full of STUFF. My sister and I are building a business of re-selling vintage and junquey treasures, and I went through a period of time (still trying to dig out of that time, actually) where I would stop at any thrift store, and buy any thing that looked like it had potential to be awesome. And it’s not that the items weren’t awesome – it’s just that they would go home with me and be put, still in their bags, in piles… and there they’d sit. And sit. As I said – I’m digging out… things are getting TO the booth now, and it’s great. But I am still having to fight the urge to shop when I know that, for now, I have ENOUGH. :)

  59. **right hand on heart** Hi, I am Gee and I am a stuffaholic. . **faces crowd with huge smile on face**. I must ask though, where did you find the deal of a shower curtain? You knew we were going to ask :-)

    I have had my declutter phases… but I always return with ‘stuff’. I luv ma stuff!!

  60. Yup..that used to be me..Always had a “spare” in reserve..Soon I’ll be moving to a Retirement development..1000sqft cottage..Serious downsizing..No storage..No basement..There will be a garage..It will be a big change..I have gotten rid of a lot of stuff but still have too much..I’ll be going to 4 -4inch drawers in the kitchen from 7 double wides and one double depth..What ever will I do???

  61. So guilty of that very thing. I love chalkboards…I have 19….many of them are BIG, so I only have about 6 of them out. Why do I keep the rest? Why do I have such a strong attatchment to things? It’s a disease!! Everything’s neatly organized…not like on hoarders or anything, but the writing’s on the wall!!!!
    congratulations on stopping the “just one more” spread! Hopefully I’ll learn a lesson from you!

  62. My husband helped me clean our our craft room to make room for baby girl and he honestly thought we were on an episode of Hoarders. Honestly, I thought I had a million uses for coffee cans and baby food jars. Well, I did end up recycling most of it during the purge, but you just never know when you’ll need that stuff!

    Also, WHERE did you get those ruffle curtains for that price!? Jealous!

  63. I am a recovered stuff-aholic. One thing that helped me recover was that I had 5 kids, a husband with Army gear, renovation tools, and moved into a house with no garage! lol

    –Katie

  64. i’m sooo with you darlin (I think we’re sisters of some kind!!) it feels good to stop and to clear and to edit and to enjoy fewer things surrounding and crowding us in! BUT…….I so wish you had bought another one of those shower curtains cuz I would have bought it from you….I’m in luuurrrveee with it! shuckers! ha

  65. Whenever I hear myself say, “well, I am not sure where I could put it, but I suppose I could find a spot”…I know that I should just walk away…sigh. But, sometimes I don’t. Because it’s just too good of a darn deal! Hahaha. Oh well. Thank God for blogging so I can share my good deals and get some validation for it…lol.

    Hugs, Angie

  66. Ok this one will be funny….Rocks – Their free I just need to pick up,in my pockets in my back pack….O my aching back…seriously aching back…now if you walk around my house or in my house and Maybe my head…ROCKS….where did you get that one…I can tell you…when where…and my Mom has it and my sis…O my goodness it in inherited….O is that the reason for all these antiques…yeap Mom and Dad collected and when I left career world I fell into this….yeap stuff – a -holic….paint cans….old books to make something,trinkets and jjunk…open my hall door and jump back…O my goodness…..and the attic…I will use this in my next project…Ok stop. I have improved Rocks I pick up,think of all the ones I have( my hubby used to look at the car when I came back after my trips home) How low was it sitting…How many rocks this time…so now I only pickup little ones…no more boulders ….and paint use up what I have and books make garlands for christmas and be ahead …My word is think! before I add one more item to my stuff….
    Does anyone remember George Carlins routine on stuff….too funny

  67. Does anyone remember George Carlins routine on stuff? I live by it. I have stuff every where…Hi, my name is Claudia and I am a stuff-aholic. Maybe verging on the hoarder side. NOT fun. But I tell you every time I go through my stuff I can’t think of anything of mine that I can get rid of. Now the hubs stuff, that’s a different story…I think to myself, why would any man need all this stuff, *giggle* . If he would just part with more of his stuff then I would have room for my stuff and it wouldn’t be stuffed any more. So I have resigned myself to this…he has got to get rid of more of this stuff.

  68. My coping mechanism goes beyond do not buy ‘words’…

    It is “DO NOT EVEN GO LOOK”… which is one reason I have nothing to blog about right now…

    Morgan even does the grocery shopping.

  69. YES, you found me out, I am a stuffaholic too! Shall we start a 12 step program? You know we are moving. We first got a DUMPSTER and PACKED it full! Then I took 12 trip to GW with my large SUV filled. But thehn we had to “satge” the house to sell, so we got a POD, filled it and then packe another POD’s worth and are storing it. It doesn’t help that the new house will ahve TONS of storage room:):) I think I am doomed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don’t have a word, or phrase to not buy, guess I better think of one fast!!!! XO, Pinky

  70. Mine are “where is this going to live, and what I am I willing to trade out for it?” I made a deal with myself a few years ago to take something out when I put something new in. I don’t get rid of it, but have to put it up in the garage or attic. I like to see all of my things, so it’s really hard for me to put things away ;)

  71. Why won’t anyone give up where they got the shower curtain? I’m dying here! I have a half finished shower that needs a shower screen, but can’t afford it atm so I’ve decided I can live with a shower curtain, but only if it’s this one! And yes, I’m a stuffaholic too, but I don’t really care lol I have a six bedroom house with no children and definitely none on the way for a long time, so I have a lot of space to store stuff lol

  72. I too am a stuffaholic and a cheap-skate. I buy VHS’s at GoodWill because DVDs are too expensive and $1 a pop is cheaper than renting. I have a problem. Can we form a support group?

  73. Yes, Ma’am I am a stuffoholic. I don’t like it at all. Horrible feeling. WE moved into our cozy little condo. I got rid of almost everything we owned. But, then I started changing things up and needed MORE things. UGH!! It is starting to bug me now, though. So, I think I am done with stuff!! If I find myself wanting STUFF, I will remember this post or join a 12 step program in my neighborhood ;)
    Loves!!

  74. I do love to shop, and I do buy too much, but I actually have a different problem than you because I throw everything away. Things I need. Like, the next day. So I never have too much of anything. And so…..I go shopping.

  75. Oh my gosh…I’m the same way. I try and decipher whether something is a need or want, but then it doesn’t matter because I end up getting it regardless of which it is.

    PS-Where the heck did you get that curtain?!?!?! I need, errrr…want it! :)

  76. I LOVE your bathroom! The ruffled shower curtain really completes it.

    I would be a stuff-aholic if we had more money. :) I go clothes shopping and see ten different tops that I want, but luckily my husband always goes shopping with me and puts the kibosh on getting too much stuff. Works like a charm!

  77. LOVE your words! I need to show your post to my hubs – he’s the king of buying multiples! It is free-ing isn’t it – identifying these little words that lead us down a path we never meant to go down? I’ve saved so much and treasured that much more with my own “don’t buy” words.

  78. Oh yes, my friend, oh yes indeed.

    My program of recovery started many years ago – has worked somewhat well – but my stop words are:

    “If you wouldn’t buy it at full price, don’t buy it at a discount.” Well it was for clothes, not “things.” but it helped.

    Now I REALLY must like something to buy it for my home.

    I don’t ever count my buying for my shoppe, that’s totally different………………but drives me nuts because I sell lots of things I would so so so love to keep……………but if I bought with shoppe in mind I absolutely sell it, made that promise.

    It ain’t easy bein’ a stuffaholic, is it?

    Hugs to a fellow mate on her road to recovery.

  79. Am I a stuff-aholic? Do I have to much stuff? No I am not and no I do not…………………………ok if you asked my husband or any of my daughters you would get a different answer but they are wrong……………………………lol I love my stuff I am not a hoarder………………my husband and children are wrong…………………you know though what makes it easy to not buy stuff having no money…………………………….and no credit cards……………………..lol

  80. A problem with stuff? My husband spent Saturday laying down more flooring to enlarge our attic because THREE walk-in attic spaces aren’t enough. I don’t have a spending problem I have a “letting go” problem.

    I am totally about to check out where to get that shower curtain. I’m a member of the ruffle fan club too.

  81. Oh Karianne, I know of what you speak. And you have really touched a nerve judging by the responses. I think you spend the first half of your life collecting and the second half getting rid of things. I have bought and sold all my life and i’m 56 now. My mom and I went to sales in the 60′s through the 80′s. We got some great stuff but her house and our lake cottage was definitely full. Things really got crazy when I sold at an occasional sale 4 days every month. I teach full time and spend evenings and weekends chasing project pieces and resale merch. It was so much fun because I got to BUY every month too, and could pick the stuff early during setup! Those three years were wonderful but I am now picking though my “swell stuff” and keeping only the best of the best. My house looks so much better now that I am super picky about what to keep. What you said in the post is so true…”Do I love it?”. If I am not mad-crazy for it then it is not for me. Another trap is to think because I’ve been garage sale-ing all day I HAVE to buy something. I don’t. So the phrase “Do I love it” works for me.

  82. My name is Mary Ann and I am a Pillowoholic. At least I moved around my living room furniture instead of buying new pillows…for now :)

    Cute curtain!!!

  83. I knew we were friends! I’m really trying to think about “do I love it”… the problem is that I love so many things! Anything white and wood is fabulous to me… anything rusty and distressed…. anything vintage….etc… I need a clean out around here without looking back!
    Susan
    Homeroad.net

  84. I was kind of hoping you had bought seven ruffle curtains so I could offer to buy a few from you :) I am a collector of all things home decor and have trouble passing up a bargain. My husband is quick to remind me that if an item were really that much of a bargain, the store would not be selling it – they are in it to make money after all. So I just ask myself, “What would Charles do?” I’ve made a home items wish list which I carry with me everywhere, and if an item is not on the list, it is NOT an option.

  85. Yep, I qualify. Attic, check. Garage, check. Outbuilding (playhouse), check. All stuffed to the max. When our daughter moves out, she will not need to buy a single thing. Not. One. Thing. I would start cleaning it all out now, but I’ve got to go to Goodwill. It’s Wednesday, and the truck came in :)

  86. Ok…..sigh…..Sign me up for the” Too Much Stuff Program”. I confess my junking sins. Wait ,stick your head out the window as I slow down -is that a garage sale sign ahead?

  87. Why yes I am :-) And that is why I am renting space to sell some of my purchases.I get the thrill of buying and the joy of making some money from it LOL! You need to have a shop girl!
    xx
    Anne

  88. I’m getting my cluttering and acquiring under control – but alas, I truly believe my husband has a hoarding disorder.

    I’ve talked myself out of some (would’ve been great) purchases lately. A few months ago I decided I wasn’t allowed to buy anything until the half- or quarter-done projects I have are all finished. Pictures need to be hung, chair needs to finish being upholstered, new light fixture (from Christmas!!!) needs to be installed, etc. Until those are done, NOTHING. It sucks but it’s working!

  89. Me too! But now I have a plan! I pack a box of things I don’t need, bring it to a really cute resale shoppe. That makes room to buy more stuff! Now I don’t feel guilty. What do you think of my plan? Love your blog.

  90. Yes. And I need a support group! Remember that pretty “home decor storage room”… the one I cleaned and organized at the beginning of the year? Yeah… me either. LOL!

    It no longer exists. I like the “stuff” a wee bit too much ;)

  91. Happy to say I am not, but I do adore that shower curtain!

  92. Uh-oh…..I’m now a member of your “Stuff-aholics Anonymous” club, Karianne. lol! I sooooo understand what you’re talking about. I find one tee I love, and I’ve gotta have another — or two. Or one in each color. Ruffled pillows? Gotta have more than five, dontchaknow! lol! Shopping? LOVE IT! Getting that package in the mail? LOVE IT! I think it’s in my genes and I can’t do anything about it, though, since both of my parents loved shopping too. lol!

    But I do admit…it can get out of control and scary. I am finding that the “stuff” I’ve purchased for my home is getting decluttered and sent to my booth to sell. Does that count as being on the road to recovery…..? lol!

    xoxo laurie

  93. I have had two major cuts in my spending in the last 7 years. The first was when I was laid off and decided that meant it was time to go ahead with the family-making thing. The second was after the baby was born and had a lot of medical costs. I went from being able to impulse buy my way around a mall to deciding ‘retail’ was a filthy dirty word. Cutting back on the budget like that is hard and I made several catch-myself phrases to help.
    1. It will need to be dusted = No.
    2. It’s a little more than I wanted to spend and/or not as nice as I hoped for = no.
    3. That will be so useful at an unspecified later date = no.
    4. I can use that for (pause) (thinking) = even if I come up with something it’s a no.
    5. I used to have one of those (but haven’t thought about it in the last several years) = NO NO
    I am a sucker for mementos, antiques, anything I played with as a kid and think my kid might enjoy. It takes effort to get just what we will use, and not stockpile the things we might use. Keeping the clutter down and the reserve budget up is really worth it though.

  94. I suggest you read Overdressed by Elizabeth Cline. It will change the way you live forever! Imagine 7 billion people all living like us! Our planet cannot support this way of life, so good for you for realizing the “too much stuff” issue.

  95. Wow! What a wonderful post! You’ve obviously hit a nerve we all share. : ) Hi, I’m an new follower. My name is Barbe and I too am a stuffaholic! I went from a 1000ft duplex with a garage, large back yard and patio, plus storage shed into living in apts. For the past 6yrs I’ve been trying to figure out how to make things “fit”! *_* I’ve moved 5 times since leaving my large space and with each move, I purge. For instance, the first moving truck was a 20ft and the second was only 16ft; still a lot I know. But before the first move, I gave away furniture and sent 3 loads of stuff to the dump and Goodwill!
    I only recently realized my biggest problem is I need smaller furniture. I have a lot of antiques, bought and inherited, and they take up alot of space. My Victorian couch I inherited from my mom is 7 1/2ft long! It swallows up the livingroom of most apts especially since the sides and arms are barrel shape ! I’ve thought of selling it many times but my heart gets in the way! : -(

    I love your blog and the way your write! You are pleasant to read and have a great sense of humor. I hope you’ll stop by sometime and join in on my Frugal Treasures Tuesday party with one of your projects! Thanks for sharing.
    Barbe

  96. Wow, how did you know? I have piles – I blogged about it once. The loft is full, all the drawers and cupboards are also full and don’t even get me started on the cellar. I think you need to start a ‘piles-of-stuff’ addiction centre here. However I am on a mission, slowly sorting one thing at a time. I will do it, I will clear the crap – heck I may even save money over time by not buying more. Every time I think I want/need whatever I am holding, I picture my overflowing home, and it goes back on the shelf! Thank you for helping me realise I am not alone!

  97. Love the shower curtain! Where did it come from?

  98. I agree with everyone else!! WHERE DID YOU FIND THAT SHOWER CURTAIN!!! :O)

  99. Unfortunately the OCD that causes hoarding swings both ways in my family… two aunts, one sister and one brother got the freakish, neurotic clean version… my dad, his mother, two other aunts and several cousins got the hoarding version. I’ve worked very hard to keep the hoarding under control most of my life… But isn’t it FABULOUS finding a great bargain and just a waste of time and resources not buying at least two or a dozen of those GREAT ruffled curtains???!!!!!!!

  100. Barbara Schneider :

    Hi KariAnne,
    My name is Barbara Schneider,
    And yes, I am a stuff-aholic too.
    Admission is the first step in recovery, Right????????
    So glad we are kindred spirits……….
    in more than one way.
    By the way, I am off to the Dallas Sample Show today……………and I CAN’T WAIT!
    Wish you were going with me!

  101. I found a ruffled shower curtain at the BedBathStore.com website for $19.99…not sure if it’s the same one:

    http://www.bedbathstore.com/caborufashcu.html?scvoile-car-21&utm_source=google&utm_medium=PLA&id=38800728972&mr:keyword={keyword}&gclid=CInG-9_dkbUCFdOf4AodIEUAWg

    Hope this helps everyone…

    ♥ Becky in SC ♥

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  103. Funny I found this today because I just walked away from a six by ten area rug in great condition that only cost $48, but the color and pattern were all wrong. I am still struggling with how cheap it was though, even though I don’t NEED it or LOVE it, a rug that cheap is hard to pass up! Stuffaholics unite!

  104. I hear you loud and clear…..I have lots of stuff! But I love to look in thrift stores for more stuff…does it ever end?

  105. I know when I need to walk away because I will think ‘Eventually I can use this’ or ‘I know I have something to put into this.’ I’m addicted to receptacles!